A short while ago, I lost someone I considered and respected as a very good and long time friend. This friend and I had enjoyed each other’s friendship quite intimately in professional, family and other situations. While going through the pains and nostalgia of the loss, I have reflected on the lessons that the disappeared friend has taught me. Friends, it behooves me to share some of these with you.
The first lesson is that, such losses impact on us differently. Some losses affect us right away; and others only sink in after a while. This one took longer than usual to sink in. For a good four days after the bad news, I remained strong and almost unaffected until the day of burial. I started feeling week and disinterested in quite a number of things. The only people I wanted to speak to were those with whom I could share memories of the friend.
More importantly, was to observe how the friend had organized his Estate for the after-him, just as he had done during his living. He left behind a very organized Will that he had been regularly revising to soot the varying situation of his family. He had been blessed with several children and grand children and, with some substantive property that he had honestly acquired through his own sweat and good planning. To each child, he bequeathed an appropriate piece of property. But at the same time, he set aside some property for purposes of prolonging his legacy and meeting his lifetime commitments through a well organized TRUST left in the charge of clearly designated Trustees.
All in all, my friend taught me the value of true friendship. He vividly brought home the value and importance of making a Will. According to him, the act proves one’s honesty, thoughtfulness, a sense of responsibility, consideration for others and, it saves the family and friends from unnecessary wrangles. In some way, making a Will is a decent way to own up for the life that one has led down here. Contentedness with the life and duration that one has been granted is another lesson that the friend left me with. May he rest in perfect Peace!